OK... this blog has lacked its usual posts...lol... (my bad)!!
I've finished university now, I am officially a graduate! Yaayyyy!! Having been catapulted into the real world without any preparation (yes...university was supposed to be the 'preparation' but it wasn't) has now left me working in a bank. *sigh*... Can't I catch a break!! The 9-5 work ethic has demolished my social life and for this reason I have had no desire to write on the blog. But as you all know me very well... my life without drama is like cereal without milk, lasagne with no cheese, Jay-Z with no Beyonce... it just doesn't happen!
I moved back home and I felt like as soon as I dropped all my bags the drama had begun. People were finding out that I was back and everyone wanted to hang out like old times. This wasn't the problem for me, I love socialising, I love to laugh, so I knew that being around my old friends would bring back old, fun memories but what I didn't anticipate was the 'change' in some people. Don't get me wrong 'change' is good... I mean everyone changes... you have to... if you're not changing, you're not growing and life without growth is... well its pointless!! To be totally honest, I know that I've changed, moving away from the city really helped calm down that 'hype' attitude I once possessed but now I just find myself feeling uncomfortable around some of my friends. The drama surrounding this 'change' is too detailed to describe but it was emotional... I've had to part ways with those I thought I would grow old with and it is sad but life goes on!
The drama surrounding my love life is much more comical... being approached by guys who I feel lack ambition tends to 'kill' any positive mood! At first, I used to think that setting standards made a person superficial, even shallow but now I realise that standards are essential. In regards to the standards a guy must possess to be considered as a potential, my requirements are clear and concise:
- he must be a Christian
- physical requirements bear some importance - the guy must look like he has showered
- he must have ambition, he has to know what he wants to accomplish in life
- he must be able to hold a conversation
- he must be sane
- he must have a sense of humour
- he must be able to control his temper
- he should appreciate an independent woman
Those are the requirements I can think of right now, some women have similar requirements it all depends on what they deem most important. All I'm saying is why do I get approached by guys who don't meet
any of these requirements... I'm not asking for Tyson Beckford (even though I did in a previous post, I have matured), I'm not asking for Morris Chestnut. I'm asking for someone who has the same morals as I do, who has the same attitude to life as I do. I've worked hard on being successful, I've worked hard trying to make the most out of life, being the best that I can be... so why should I settle for someone who has never done anything productive with theirs, who really has no concern for their future, who basically doesn't give a damn!!
I have standards but I'm justified for having those standards, so can someone please tell Dwayne from down the road that my name is not Kamiesha (sorry if that is your name) and it is less than likely that I will 'come and jam in his drum'... kmt!! Can you also tell Uncle John that I am too young for him, his wife and kids are at home waiting for him to bring them their dinner and can you let Jeremiah (Mr I Think I'm God's Gift) know that all the lines he's used before may have worked but I am not THAT GIRL... try harder!! Better yet, don't even bother!! Life ey!!
Woooooo... glad I got that off my chest!!
Feels good to be back!
- Gabrielle
