Last Time

I’m obsessing over Trey Songz’ latest single ‘Last Time’ – I’m in love with it. I’m always singing it and just recently added it to my iPod so you know it’s on repeat. His smooth voice lingers over every word and you just can’t help but picture the scenario he’s painting… the video helps too!! So, I’ve listened to this song more than 30 times already despite the fact that I only added it to my iTunes two days ago!!

I couldn’t help thinking about sections of the song…
‘Your love is so so serious,
You keep me comin’ back babe…

…She just don’t deserve this
Aint nobody perfect
But I just can’t take no more
I’m living two different lives…

…Even though this ain’t right,
I just can’t get enough
But the way you put it down.’

Is this why guys cheat? E.g. a conversation I had with a friend about the ‘Harvey and Alesha’ situation (if you don’t know already, read about it here) and my friend said ‘it’s not that he didn’t like Alesha, he just probably had better sex with Javine!’ My argument - if you’re not happy with anything in a relationship can’t you just rectify it by talking. I don’t think ‘talking’ would be the direct approach in a situation regarding your sex life like Harvey and Alesha’s but he could have made gestures or showed her or even taught her – that relationship didn’t break down because of Alesha not pleasing Harvey enough, I just think he got greedy! He is the one that proposed to her, he’s the one that initiated thoughts of marriage (I read in an article somewhere that Alesha had no idea he was that serious about her), if he wasn’t ready to commit he shouldn’t have asked. I’m surprised really because he should have known that getting married would mean having sex with that one person for the rest of his life – someone sent him the wrong memo!!

Trey Songz sings ‘he just can’t get enough’… huh? I’m not saying I fully understand but I’m grasping that sex really has a hold on some guys… or is it not just the sex but the amount? That doesn’t even make sense… is it the sex with the number of women that is appealing? I really want to know! Yes, girls cheat but I think girls cheat for different reasons, the more I think about why guys cheat – I just always end up with the theory that it’s just the sex. Now if that is the reason, it’s a lame one! A guy could have the flyyest lady on his arm, a woman that every man wants but still ends up cheating à la Eric Benet and Halle Berry, David and Victoria Beckham (not every guy wants Victoria but hey…), Harvey and Alesha, Ashley Cole and Cheryl Cole (to be honest I don’t care about these two – but you get my drift).

If it is just the sex, is it impossible to get as much of it as you want from the woman you claim to love? I know women suddenly get ‘headaches’ when their men bring it up… lol… but really I know most women would do anything for their partners – so it must not be just about the sex then! If it’s about the chase, the fact that you might get caught, the deceit – I’m ashamed! When did we start doing deceitful things for pleasure? Thieves, liars, fraudsters get pleasure from deceitful actions but they’re scum… it’s not supposed to be that way – notice how when a man cheats, he always gets caught. Well, some men… some of you are getting smarter!! No, I’m playing… there are many guys who don’t cheat… give yourselves a pat on the back, you are appreciated! The bottom line is there is a reason why guys cheat… I don’t know what it is, but I want to find out. This isn’t some personal mission, please do not read between the lines, no one has cheated on me but its something that is happening frequently amongst friends and I just want to know why it happens. I have asked some of my male friends and their ‘don’t know why’ is becoming tiresome – so if you have a theory please share….

I’m not going to stop listening to ‘Last Time’… I can’t get enough… I’m going to add Trey Songz to my never ending list of potentials and just so you can appreciate what I’m talking about – the video is below. Enjoy!!




- Gabrielle

Funny Thoughts...

Sometimes my life is boring... really boring and I find that there's no amount of TV, music or books that can cure that boredom. In situations like these I turn to gossip... lol... NOOOO not 'ordinary people' gossip... ok, well not 'ordinary people' I know, gossip... just hearsay... I'll enlighten you on the things I discuss with my comrades...





1) Flava Flav!! LMAO!! Nuff said!! Now I truly believe that everyone is beautiful. Each person was made in God's image and I feel that if I call someone ugly, I'm indirectly insulting God's work. So, I refrain from calling people ugly... 'cos it's not nice and 'cos its just not nice. Then there's FLAV!! I mean, from when I see him on TV... with his dry ass lips and his 3 plaits on his head... to the earring he uses as a nose ring... what compliment can I pay him. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder... to be honest I really don't know why those girls are there... I know they DO NOT see anything nice in this OLD ASS MAN!! He just looks like the type of person whose breath makes your hairline recede... I shudder when I think of the amount of girls from 'Flavor of Love' sleep with him... best believe that 'money is the root of all evil'... everyone and their mothers know that if he had no money... it would be another case entirely!! With all that said... he does provide entertainment... funny old man!!


2) I heard that a woman got killed in Brixton by a police van carrying 11 prisoners. *blank stare*... Hmmm... (A) I heard this woman was a bit loopy (B) I heard the van drove over her head and the crowd was telling the driver to reverse - back over her head that is (C) A crowd built up around the van causing havoc for a few hours... so basically that woman was left to die. My thoughts... only in Brixton!! KMT!!


3) I was having a discussion with my friends about rapists, wife beaters, paedophiles etc. Its a very sensitive subject but have you noticed that when they show a picture of the atacker (on the news, magazines, newspaper articles)... don't they look dodgy anyway. Like I'm sorry if this offends anyone but all the pics I have seen scream 'WEIRDO' to me... like I'm cautious of everyone... maybe a bit too cautious but its better to be safe than sorry. The reason why Im saying this is because a man was convicted of rape and attempted murder last week and if you saw his picture... HELL TO THE NO... HELL NO!! If I saw this man walking on the same side of the street... I would cross over... no hesitation. He just looked 'seedy'!! Ladies... you know what I'm talking about!! He fits into the category of those men you see at the train station/bus stop who look at you far longer than is necessary, flash a 'seedy' smile, breathe all heavy... you're waiting to use the cash point and they're behind you too close for comfort, making you feel very uncomfortable... OK...hmm... maybe that just happens to me!! You get my drift though... if he looks suspicious... HE IS!! SIMPLE!!








And these 'American Boys' are just doing it for me these days, making my heart skip a beat, my smile last longer than ever... basically seeing them in a mag or on tv makes me happy... Derek Luke (Antwoine Fisher), Jackie Long (Serena Williams' ex... abusive partner in Trey Songz vid 'Can't Help But Wait), I still got love for Jarell 'J-Boog' Houston (B2K member)... I know - I need to let that one go but my love for guys hailing from the LDN... especially Idris Elba!! His beauty is just too much... hmmmm!!




Oh and no discrimination here... Mark Ronson gets a shout out too!! He's cute... oh whatever!! The guy is cute! And I know that the male readers may be sickened by this... just a little bit... so a lil' something for you too...




Until next time folks...

- Gabrielle

What is going on? Part II

Remember this post? Well because I love you all so much and know how you love this song, its only right that I post this for your viewing pleasure *rolls eyes*
When watching the following I recommend keeping a bottle of holy water in reaching distance. That is all.
Enjoy...


- SistaLova

Get Gone... Call Tyrone!!

Already laughing at the title... yeah I said it... 'call Tyrone'.

An old friend called me the other day and unlike the desired reaction he expected, I was not pleased. The surprise call was not received well at all... not just because we haven't spoken since September last year but because our friendship crumbled due to his continuous 'spittage' of lies... lol... (*side eye* - 'spittage'... I'm going to add that to my lingo dictionary). There are many things I can't stand in this world, many things , but being lied to sits right at the top, just above being taken advantage of and following closely behind - when people talk to me with an air of superiority... none of those instances are cute.

My old friend lied to me in a way that I lost trust in people full stop... what happened to plain old telling the truth. Where did we go wrong? As soon as I found out what he had done, I deleted his number, deleted him on Facebook - basically destroyed any reminder I may have of his existence. It sounds harsh but really it's not, the feeling I had can be compared to a 'Maury' moment, when your best friend/sister tells you they have slept with your boyfriend... the feeling of finding out that the child you have raised up as your own might not be yours... that feeling of betrayal and hurt... that hurts and the delete action of my old friend just fits his crime.

So... I refer to him as an old friend but if I'm honest, at one point (periodic insanity) I thought he was 'the one'. HA HA!! I'm laughing now but... hmmm... anyway you can understand why I felt so passionate about his deceitful ways. Having now deleted my Facebook (it was too much of a distraction) and focused on getting a life, I stumbled once again on the treasure pot that is YouTUBE. Simply amazing!! Searched all my favourite artists and came across the queen that is Erykah Badu... she told it like it is and still does... (a little dedication to Lauryn Hill... I love you mama... please come back). I watched 'Call Tyrone' and thought I actually handled my 'old friend' situation quite well... so without further ado... I present my little throwback... ERYKAH BADU - CALL TYRONE

P.S. If you incessantly call/text me, Facebook me, ask my friends about me with no reply... you have been deleted!! It's very easy to comprehend... you are no longer an asset to have around that is why you are no longer a part of my life. No animosity though. I wish you all the best in your future... I hope you can find someone to tolerate your pathological lying ways... but even that would be a curse to that poor innocent person. DEUCES UP!!




- Gabrielle

It's Been A While!

Hi readers!!

Its been quite a long hiatus since my last post and due to the 'talk' that I had with SistaLova, I realised it was in my best interest to at least update you on the 'funny' that is my life!!

Firstly, I want to acknowledge the readers of AfroDivas, its been a long run... December 2005, that is when we started and I know some of you still come on the site to check if there have been any posts... this will be rectified. A post every week... well from Gabrielle... SistaLova... (I'm giving you the *side eye* right now)... we owe a regular post to our faithful readers!!

Sooooooooooo the 'funny' that is my life and events around me:

I've decided that weird people, weird events...anything weird must be attracted to me, I just can't catch a break. Like, why is it always me?

Having moved back home from university, I have to say I became quite a bit naive... (the uni atmosphere can do that to you)... I forgot that in all the years before moving to university I used to get approached by 'uncles', men past their sell by dates, men who don't want to grow up, men who still insist that they have still got 'it'... on my way home from an outing the shenanigans had started again. I insist on keeping my iPod with me at all times incase of situations like this and have advised all my friends that in actual fact this does work, I was proved wrong the other day. Honestly, these 'uncles' are getting smarter!!

So, I'm walking home...listening to my iPod as you do... the volume is high but I can still hear things going on around me... so I hear someone shouting... or not even shouting but this continuous irritating noise so obviously I'm going to turn around... argghhh, why was it this 'uncle'? To be honest, I had noticed the way he was staring at me before but I brushed it off... I've fallen victim to giving them the 'benefit of the doubt'... so I turned around and there he was... smiling... smiling soooooo hard I could see all his teeth right to the back of his mouth, my heart sunk!

He was talking and I just stared at him... I had to think fast, pulling my earphones out would have been the worst move. I guess he figured that I couldn't hear him and started gesturing for me to take my earphones out... (argghh... what do I do?)... I don't know how I started thinking so quick on my feet but I refused to take them out. Now if you knew me before I would've taken them out and then thought *shite* afterwards but that didn't happen... he must've figured that I would be a challenge and decided to try and take my earphones out himself.

OH HEELLLLLLLLLLLLL NO!! Am I awake? This uncle did not try and violate my space... I did some matrix move faster than you can say 'matrix move' and that's when I walked off. I didn't even care if he was following me... by that point he had pissed me off. I think back to it now and I'm like 'why didn't I walk off in the first place'... 'why didnt I just tell him to leave me alone'... I just think sometimes I'm too nice for my own good... I hate offending people, but some people bring it on themselves. Just like the woman who lives opposite me... this woman had everyone believing she was disabled... got people in the neighbourhood running errands for her, going over to the house to check if she's alrite, just looking after her... the way a community should. I thought I damn near lost my mind when I saw this woman coming out of her house, pushing her own wheelchair... hmm *looks around the room*... is she not supposed to be in the wheelchair? I think her landlord clocked on 'cos I haven't seen her in the area for a while... but I mean... COME ON!! Is this where our generation is headed... fraudsters, paedophiles etc... what happened to life as I knew it? Lol... To be honest though... can you imagine life without these little events... very boring don't you think?!

Imma be back... I'm loving blogger life again!!

Gabrielle