Last Time

I’m obsessing over Trey Songz’ latest single ‘Last Time’ – I’m in love with it. I’m always singing it and just recently added it to my iPod so you know it’s on repeat. His smooth voice lingers over every word and you just can’t help but picture the scenario he’s painting… the video helps too!! So, I’ve listened to this song more than 30 times already despite the fact that I only added it to my iTunes two days ago!!

I couldn’t help thinking about sections of the song…
‘Your love is so so serious,
You keep me comin’ back babe…

…She just don’t deserve this
Aint nobody perfect
But I just can’t take no more
I’m living two different lives…

…Even though this ain’t right,
I just can’t get enough
But the way you put it down.’

Is this why guys cheat? E.g. a conversation I had with a friend about the ‘Harvey and Alesha’ situation (if you don’t know already, read about it here) and my friend said ‘it’s not that he didn’t like Alesha, he just probably had better sex with Javine!’ My argument - if you’re not happy with anything in a relationship can’t you just rectify it by talking. I don’t think ‘talking’ would be the direct approach in a situation regarding your sex life like Harvey and Alesha’s but he could have made gestures or showed her or even taught her – that relationship didn’t break down because of Alesha not pleasing Harvey enough, I just think he got greedy! He is the one that proposed to her, he’s the one that initiated thoughts of marriage (I read in an article somewhere that Alesha had no idea he was that serious about her), if he wasn’t ready to commit he shouldn’t have asked. I’m surprised really because he should have known that getting married would mean having sex with that one person for the rest of his life – someone sent him the wrong memo!!

Trey Songz sings ‘he just can’t get enough’… huh? I’m not saying I fully understand but I’m grasping that sex really has a hold on some guys… or is it not just the sex but the amount? That doesn’t even make sense… is it the sex with the number of women that is appealing? I really want to know! Yes, girls cheat but I think girls cheat for different reasons, the more I think about why guys cheat – I just always end up with the theory that it’s just the sex. Now if that is the reason, it’s a lame one! A guy could have the flyyest lady on his arm, a woman that every man wants but still ends up cheating à la Eric Benet and Halle Berry, David and Victoria Beckham (not every guy wants Victoria but hey…), Harvey and Alesha, Ashley Cole and Cheryl Cole (to be honest I don’t care about these two – but you get my drift).

If it is just the sex, is it impossible to get as much of it as you want from the woman you claim to love? I know women suddenly get ‘headaches’ when their men bring it up… lol… but really I know most women would do anything for their partners – so it must not be just about the sex then! If it’s about the chase, the fact that you might get caught, the deceit – I’m ashamed! When did we start doing deceitful things for pleasure? Thieves, liars, fraudsters get pleasure from deceitful actions but they’re scum… it’s not supposed to be that way – notice how when a man cheats, he always gets caught. Well, some men… some of you are getting smarter!! No, I’m playing… there are many guys who don’t cheat… give yourselves a pat on the back, you are appreciated! The bottom line is there is a reason why guys cheat… I don’t know what it is, but I want to find out. This isn’t some personal mission, please do not read between the lines, no one has cheated on me but its something that is happening frequently amongst friends and I just want to know why it happens. I have asked some of my male friends and their ‘don’t know why’ is becoming tiresome – so if you have a theory please share….

I’m not going to stop listening to ‘Last Time’… I can’t get enough… I’m going to add Trey Songz to my never ending list of potentials and just so you can appreciate what I’m talking about – the video is below. Enjoy!!




- Gabrielle